So, Now What?
You are the first in your family to have the career, family, house and lifestyle that your ancestors can only dream of. You want to deepen your commitment to yourself and continue to make promises to be more reflective about how to spend more time and energy doing what matters to you, and not what others say you should do, but it’s hard.
Welcome to So, Now What?—a podcast that goes beyond curated images and polished success stories to explore the real conversations behind entrepreneurship, leadership, family, and self-identity.
This is for the "First Only Different". You are the FIRST in your family to go beyond financial survival and are thriving. The ONLY person that looks like you in the boardroom. You are DIFFERENT than your family in that you want to break intergenerational patterns and cycles. This is for you if you have spent years mastering the art of impression management----whether in the office, family gatherings or social media and are now wanting something different. Impression management means masking, putting up a front, people pleasing. You want to move into your ambitious but authentic era. If this describes you, podcast is for you!
Angela Tam (LMHC, SEP) will focus on:
*entrepreneurship and leadership- building a career that aligns with your values
*family and cultural expectations- especially in East Asian cultures, where success is often held by external standards.
*friendship and social circles in our 30s and 40s- finding connections when priorities shift
*balancing work and parenting- managing career while consciously parenting
*visibility and representation- owning your story in personal and professional spaces
*following your dreams on your terms
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So, Now What?
Latest Episodes
25- Why My Husband's CrossFit After Work Felt Like Betrayal
I unpack why the baby handoff can feel like salvation to one partner and rejection to the other. We name the invisible “backpacks” behind mental load resentment and the performance of adequacy so couples can stop colliding and start understandi...
24- What If Your Anger Is A Smoke Signal
We name the bone deep exhaustion that comes from carrying the mental load alone and explain why anger can harden into contempt over time. We outline a three phase path to feel the grief underneath, shift the patterns that keep you stuck, and fi...
23- A Three-Phase Plan To Recover After A Relationship Ultimatum
Ultimatums are an attempt to send you a warning signal: fight this last fight for our relationship This is what you need to do: 1) get your internal bearings. Don’t suppress your defensiveness, need to explain or fix it tendencies. ...
22- Your Partner Didn't Cause The Mental Load Problem. Neither Did You
I wanted an egalitarian marriage, but instead, what I got instead surprised me. Tune in and you'll find me sharing about: • wanting non-traditional roles but sliding into old scripts • how family of origin teaches roles...
21- I Loved My Husband, But I Didn’t Like Him
I tell the truth many couples whisper: you can love a kind, present partner and still not like them when the mental load makes you feel alone. I share how invisible labor and “holiday magic” quietly create resentment, then explain why redistrib...