So, Now What?
You are the first in your family to have the career, family, house and lifestyle that your ancestors can only dream of. You want to deepen your commitment to yourself and continue to make promises to be more reflective about how to spend more time and energy doing what matters to you, and not what others say you should do, but it’s hard.
Welcome to So, Now What?—a podcast that goes beyond curated images and polished success stories to explore the real conversations behind entrepreneurship, leadership, family, and self-identity.
This is for the "First Only Different". You are the FIRST in your family to go beyond financial survival and are thriving. The ONLY person that looks like you in the boardroom. You are DIFFERENT than your family in that you want to break intergenerational patterns and cycles. This is for you if you have spent years mastering the art of impression management----whether in the office, family gatherings or social media and are now wanting something different. Impression management means masking, putting up a front, people pleasing. You want to move into your ambitious but authentic era. If this describes you, podcast is for you!
Angela Tam (LMHC, SEP) will focus on:
*entrepreneurship and leadership- building a career that aligns with your values
*family and cultural expectations- especially in East Asian cultures, where success is often held by external standards.
*friendship and social circles in our 30s and 40s- finding connections when priorities shift
*balancing work and parenting- managing career while consciously parenting
*visibility and representation- owning your story in personal and professional spaces
*following your dreams on your terms
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So, Now What?
Latest Episodes
28- How To Rebuild Self Trust When Your Labor Is Dismissed
In this episode, I name the double burden of carrying invisible labor while also being trained to doubt what I’m carrying. I walk through why your perception is not the problem, how suppressed anger changes shape, and what it looks like to turn...
27- The Mental Load Reckoning
In this episode, I name the anger and grief that came from years of carrying the mental load while not being believed by the person closest to us. I talk about what changed when our roles flipped, why self-justifying is its own kind of exhausti...
26- The Mental Load Grief
In this episode, I talk about the grief that comes from years of carrying the mental load and being told it is not real, even when the household runs on that invisible labor. I dive into how a role swap 14 years into our marriage brings ...
25- Why My Husband's CrossFit After Work Felt Like Betrayal
I unpack why the baby handoff can feel like salvation to one partner and rejection to the other. We name the invisible “backpacks” behind mental load resentment and the performance of adequacy so couples can stop colliding and start understandi...